JUST THE WAY YOU ARE

Everybody has their own strenght and positive thing, but some of them don’t have self confidence. They can’t fight against their lack of confidence and most of them are teenagers. This is the mindset that one has always wanted to show his/her modern side without enhance their confidence first. So that, the minus factor will be more dominant than positive factor and it can impedes every step of people.

I have two cases for this topic. The first is about a novel writer who named Adelia. Adelia is 25 years old. She has graduated from one of university in Indonesia and her major is Indonesian Literature. She has stucked from writing more than 3 months. She doesn’t know the cause  that makes her like that. Every time she writes, there is a heavy burden in her mind. Is it interesting? Is it funny? There are too much consideration that make her stuck in writing. Finally, she realizes that the cause due to her always see other people and she thought someone else better than her. Her friends had convinced her that she had a talent for writing and she is better than everyone else, but she still felt inferior. She tells her friends that she wanna be like Raditya Dika who has many interesting books with his style. He can writes funny story that can entertains many people and she wanna be like him. But, she always fails when she wants to write story because she thinks that she can’t write funny story like Raditya Dika. She’s just a calm girl who has low passion in joking, but she’s a romantic girl. She realizes of it and she wanna try to write romantic story. She writes story everyday and her story finishes in two months. The publisher company in Jakarta publishs her first book and she becomes a famous young writer now.

The second case is about the students at my senior high. I have a friend who named Rara. She is my bestfriend and we have been classmate for two years. Rara is a diligent person but sometimes she isn’t confident with herself. She tells me that she wants to have a boyfriend, but she is still alone up to now. She feels envy to Mita who is popular at school and has a handsome boyfriend. She tells me that she wants to change herself in order to becomes a popular girl like Mita.

Rara : Arum, I want to change myself!

Arum : What do you mean, Rara?

Rara : I mean that I wanna be like Mita who is popular and I wanna have a boyfriend.

Arum : Hey, don’t be like that. Do you know that you are beautiful? You have sweet smile and you are diligent person.

Rara : But, I have no boyfriend. Am I beautiful? I think you just entertain me!

Arum : I don’t lie and I like you just the way you are, you are my bestfriend. Please, just be yourself. I’m sure there will be a boy who likes you..

Unfortunately, rara doesn’t hear me and she changes her looking. I’m shocked when I see Rara wears a short skirt and many accessories at school. Not only me, my classmates laugh at her so  she runs and cries in the restroom. When I want to see her, I find her with Roy there. Roy is our classmate and I hear their conversation.

Roy : Rara, what’s wrong with you? ( but Rara’s still crying and doesn’t answer Roy’s question)

Roy : Rara, would you mind to tell me?

Rara : Am I disgraceful with my looking?

Roy : no, but why do you change your looking? Why do you wear these accessories and short skirt?

Rara : I just wanna be popular like Mita and I want to have boyfriend, I think there is no boy who likes me if I’m not good looking.

Roy : But you are good looking, Rara. I like you when you’re smiling , I like you when you’re saying and I like you because you are a diligent person. Rara, I like you just the way you are..

Finally, Roy tells Rara about his feeling. He likes Rara since we were in second grade and now they become a couple. I’m very happy to hear that.

From these case, we can get positive point. Be Ourself is very important thing. You can idolize other people, but just take positive things from them. You don’t need to change yourself. Because yourself is yourself, myself is myself. So, JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.

By : AKS